Break Bad Habits by Developing Self-Worth
Some habits you form in your life will be the results of your desire to build your self-identity. What you do defines who you are, so they say. But there are habits that work against you in the long haul because they support and amplify your lack of confidence in yourself. These unconscious behaviors include seeking approval from others, comparing ourselves with other people, negative self-talk, and other related actions.
Some habits can be destructive and have serious and permanent negative impacts on your life if you let them continue. When they get in the way of how you live your life, and hold you back from doing the things that will help you grow and succeed, you know you should do something about it.
One way to greatly help you to break negative habits is by developing self-worth. This is circular in nature, what is known as a self-reinforcing loop. As your feelings of self-worth increase, overcoming poor habits will become easier; as you divest yourself of these unwanted and unsupportive behaviors, your self-worth will increase too.
Now, to be clear, self-worth is not measuring yourself against others; it’s about looking inside you and your intrinsic value. It’s about paying attention to your unique qualities that make you you.
Here are some tips for you to start developing your self-worth and bidding bad habits goodbye:
Challenge Your Inner Voice
Have you noticed those inner voices in your head? Those internal dialogues and debates? That’s your critical inner voice. Sometimes it can be quite self-defeating, pointing out how you compare to other people, which leads to a sense of lesser self-worth.
You need to challenge your critical inner voice so you can avoid perpetuating destructive behaviors that make you feel even worse about yourself. When you stop caring so much about what other people think of you, you start to see yourself for who you really are. Accepting your own feelings, thoughts, and values increases your self-worth.
Believe and be Kind to Yourself
You can do great things on your own if you believe in yourself. Have faith in yourself and in your abilities. Fear holds you back from doing your best. If you believe in yourself, it solidifies your confidence to follow through and get things done. Faith and trust in self will make fear of the future evaporate. This faith and trust is a habit, so build it is small unshakeable ways.
Stop being so critical of yourself, and start being kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion you would give to others. When you are suffering, stop beating yourself up and start responding with caring.
Don’t expect yourself to be any less fallible than anyone else – none of us are perfect. Know that you don’t always have to be perfect! Striving for perfectionism can ruin your self-esteem when things don’t go your way, and it holds you back from achieving more and taking acceptable risks.
Not starting or not completing tasks or projects because of fears the work is not, or will not, be good enough will destroy your creativity. Focus on the doing, not only the results and build a stronger belief in your abilities. Believe you can and be kind to yourself.
Recognize Your Strengths and Weaknesses
Being more specifically aware of what you can and can’t do so well is another way to build your self-worth. Recognize what your strengths and weaknesses are, which will help you understand yourself more. When you are honest about these, you become more confident about your strengths, and you can also start work on how you can improve your weaknesses.
This also adds to self-acceptance. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect others to love you? Take care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Eat healthy foods, exercise, and do hobbies that you enjoy, such as reading. Try learning something new – socialize, reconnect with your spirit, pray, meditate, and listen to music that resonates with you.
Loving yourself will help you achieve more optimal well-being and soften the bonds of habits that are doing you harm.
Learn to Let Go
All people mess up in life. Holding a grudge or hating yourself for a mistake you made in the past can ruin your sense of self-worth, keeping you stuck in a cycle of negativity. Forgive yourself, forgive others, and let go of the bitterness, resentments, and failures. It will help you reconnect with your inner loving nature and accept yourself and other people despite the flaws.
Having a well-developed sense of self-worth means you feel worthy of all the good things in life. You are! And when you have that confidence, that self-esteem, that self-worth, you can better recognize the bad behaviors that you should not do because you know how harmful they can be to yourself.